The Dilemma: 'Do I give up my stable life for three months of adventure?'

Are you dealing with a pressing issue and would you like to hear someone else's opinion? Metro shares a reader's dilemma every week . This week, Rosha (31), who has finally settled in Utrecht, but is now again attracted to the unknown.

"Three years ago I moved to Utrecht, to a cozy apartment in Lombok. I knew very few people in Utrecht, the city was new to me too, but after years of wandering, relationships that came and went, and temporary jobs, I now have the feeling for the first time: okay, this is right.

I have a good job at a creative agency, nice colleagues, I do sports, I have regular coffee shops and a neighborhood where people greet me now. So settled.

But now it's itching. For a few weeks now. I can tell by everything: I was in the cinema yesterday and that film was set in Hawaii. I immediately felt like travelling for three months and planned a whole route in my head, in the middle of that cinema film.

I am seriously considering temporarily subletting my apartment and taking a break from my job – perhaps as a sabbatical or maybe even just quitting and seeing what happens.

But then comes the doubt. My mother recently said: 'You finally built a life, and now you want to put it on hold again?' She doesn't mean it badly, but it sticks. Because I know: if I leave, I put my career on hold. No guarantee that I will find a similar job in three months. Three months of unpaid leave is unfortunately not an option.

At the same time, I don't have a steady relationship waiting for me. But hey - I'm 31. Shouldn't I just get on with it now, while I finally have some certainty, and stay home in Utrecht? Leaving also means less chance of a relationship.

On the other hand: if I don't go now, when? When I am in a relationship, or have children, or a mortgage? Then this kind of freedom might be gone forever. Should I wait for 'the right moment', or is this the moment?

You read it: I'm hesitating. What would you do? Should I continue on the safe path I've just built, or choose freedom, with all the risks that come with it?

What do you think about this? Comment below, on our Facebook page or via Instagram ! The comments will then be published next week.

Last week, Metro readers gave advice about the dilemma of Eline (28), who notices that an old love makes it difficult for her to look at a new crush.

Linda advises Eline to first let go of her previous love. “Dating someone else when you are not ready for it, that will not last. You are wasting his time. And no one has everything you desire. The perfect partner does not exist. Honesty and loyalty are the best qualities, if they are there, you already have a good foundation.”

Paula feels that she should rely more on her feelings: “You are reasoning far too much,” she remarks.

"Good luck," Peter wishes her. "I don't think you're ready for another relationship yet."

Due to privacy in combination with sensitive topics, the names are fictitious. The real names are known to the editors.

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