Benny Blanco and Selena Gomez’s Biggest Argument Was About a Surprising Topic

Pop star Selena Gomez and music producer Benny Blanco have been engaged since December 2024, but it has not been entirely smooth sailing. Blanco admitted in a May 2 interview on Nova’s Ricki-Lee, Tim and Joel that he and Gomez did butt heads while writing their collaborative album, I Said I Love You First. Luckily, it was easily resolved.

Host Ricki-Lee Coulter asked about what conflicts came up in the process of creating music together.

“Honestly, she’s so easy,” Blanco shared. “When we first started making it [the album], if anything starts to feel weird, we’re stopping this immediately, and it never did.”

The one thing that came between them was an outside influence.

“The biggest thing we got in to was about birds,” Blanco said, explaining that when they recorded in a spare bedroom, Gomez complained about birds chirping outside the windows.

“For some reason there was a nest of birds that were right outside the window where she was recording,” he said. “I never heard it because whenever I walked in the birds didn’t make noise.”

Gomez got annoyed that Blanco didn’t ever hear what was bothering her as she was trying to sing, but she eventually got the birds on tape.

“It was frustrating,” he said. “Finally she got it on wax, it picked up on the mic and I finally heard it. It made me realize, ‘Oh shoot, we’re really meant for each other,’ because we’re not the arguing type. We’re not like yellers, we just kind of talk everything out. We have really good communication skills.”

In a March interview, Gomez shared some perspective on past conflict management in her relationships while speaking with Jay Shetty in his On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast. She discussed the period of time when she was single and learning how to manage “anger” and “collect [herself].”

“I felt like in other situations of mine, I was very reactive,” Gomez shared. “I think that’s why I was alone for five years because I really needed to collect myself. I think, in the past—that’s why I say to him [Blanco] all the time—10 years ago, it’s not that I wouldn’t have wanted to be with you; I just wouldn’t have been in the right headspace. And I don’t think that you deserve what I had gone through before.”

She continued, “I’ve learned a lot of lessons, and I’ve made mistakes, and I just want this to be right. So for me, that was a lesson that I had to learn, because I think girls can equally want to be right [in disagreements]. It was really difficult in the past, and he’s made it unbelievably easy, to the point where, if I even get to the point where I’m so frustrated, he’s very quick to understand, [saying], ‘I hear you, like you’re allowed to feel that.’ And that helped me shift where my mind used to go, which was a little bit of anger.